January 1, 2011
As so many of us do on the first day of the year, I reflect on the past year and ponder about coming year. I think we can all agree that 2010 has been, shall we say, a challenging year.
The economy did not do as well as most of us had hoped, we lost some great people, the divorce rate did not go down… where does that leave us? We might not be able to do too much about the economy, other than continue to push along, work hard and work intelligently; we certainly don’t have any control over whose life will come to an end, but we can appreciate those we do have around us; we can’t do too much either about the divorce rate, as we all know it takes two to tango and if half of the couple is not willing to do what it takes to keep the relationship alive, then that is doomed to fail; however, we can minimize both direct and collateral damage with the manner in which we handle the end of a relationship, whether there are children involved or not.
Break up, separation and divorce all have in common that things went wrong somewhere. For the most part, as individuals we feel that we have been wronged. Often times, quire rightfully so. Animosity, retaliation, pay backs all feel legitimate under those circumstances. Beware… That is a very high price to pay for a very short lived satisfaction. As difficult as it may be, try forgiveness; intelligent forgiveness (more on that later). You will feel much lighter and if you have children, they won’t feel the burden of the separation so much. Although very difficult to do, it is a worthy cause. People around you, not just your children, will thank you, whether you realize it or not.
Like most of you, I have no idea what 2011 has in store for us. I can only hope… But hope I do. I can only wish…But wish I do. I wish you all a very happy, peaceful, healthy and prosperous year.